Some conversations are only good once you have had time to put them into perspective

[afuna_archive]

The weirdest conversation I never actually finished happened like this:

I was in university, walking with my friend after class. Talk turned to relationships, sex, virginity. He said that he wanted any girlfriend of his to be a virgin, and that if he ever found out that anyone he was dating wasn't one, he'd break up with her immediately. I said (half-shyly, half-defiantly, I was just discovering I had a voice) that I understood where he was coming from but that virginity should not be the only criterion by which to judge a person.

He stopped, stared, spluttered, "So you want t-t-to", he waved his hands around wildly, lost for words until his eyes lighted on the trees across the field. "You're saying it's fine if every girl here in $university suddenly decided to devirginate themselves on the nearest branch?!?!?!"

(His words, his intonation).

I opened my mouth, blanked out completely, shut it, and walked away.

It has been three years. I still haven't thought up a good comeback.

Comments

[atomic-clay.livejournal.com]

HAHAHA I LOLed.

Well, virginity imo is more of like a state rather than a medical thing (i.e. the continued existence of the hymen). I read that those can break from like cycling, and splitting and stuff.

Which is kind of stupid if you think about it... I mean, that you'd consider yourself not a virgin because of something other than sex. XD

And a branch... WHUT? XD XD XD

[afuna]

HAHAHA I LOLed.

And I could not walk through SEC field for a week.

Perhaps he meant using the branch in a sexual act, which is the only sane way to interpret his sentence (... did I just imply that suggesting an entire school have sex with branches is sane????)

[atomic-clay.livejournal.com]

Why couldn't you not walk around SEC field? :))

Yeah, that's probably what he meant. And no, you didn't imply that it was sane! :))

What I meant was... he was using the "technical," if you will, definition of virginity. Which is really quite... unreliable.

I remember reading this retort on a similar situation somewhere: Who would you consider more of a "virgin": A girl who has had sexual intercourse once in her life, or a girl who has never had intercourse but has performed other non-penetrative sexual acts with say, 5, or maybe a dozen other people?

[afuna]

It happened right there on the SEC walkway! I had these terrible associations, grrrr.

And yes! Someone in a comment below asked how he'd know that the girl is really a virgin, and really it is difficult to prove one way or another!

Does non-penetrative include anal sex? *rimshot*

[atomic-clay.livejournal.com]

Haha horrible recollections of the conversation eh no. XD

Yeah, it is difficult to prove it as it is - haha honesty system?! :))

HAHAHA XD I guess I meant non-vaginal intercourse hahaha! Srsly, like what Eula mentioned, picking that way as a method to "preserve virginity"... that's just messed up, and really, just a bunch of excuses. :))

[eula-tequila.livejournal.com]

You know what the trend is now? Anal sex to "preserve virginity." WTF, society.

[atomic-clay.livejournal.com]

Haha it's just... technicalities! :))